MemesMoving forward--I'm largely done with memes. Neutral memes that may be amusing and interesting are probably not off the table but memes in general, I'm done using. We all like memes because they are perfect analogy machines, distilling our issue into something that is a picture and handful of words. However, memes do not really encourage or make for better dialogue between people with differences but rather allows one to state their claim, relying on the (often faulty) logic or limited facts of the meme to be proof positive. They are shields with which to stand behind but generally non-starters for actual conversation. They're used as proof-positive, often with the implication that if we just share them around enough, everyone will finally get it.
In order to critique the idea at the center, one has to engage in a long and drawn out explanation which often takes time and often, the original poster is not interested in hearing. Not only do they take time but because the meme has framed the point, one is often trapped in having to contend with the present frame, which because of its distilled nature often is a challenge to do so in an engaging way given the person who posted it feels strongly enough about the meme to post it.
So for me, I am refusing to engage in the meme-wars. They aren't constructive in the end I believe and therefore would rather spend my time sharing more constructive ways of publicly thinking. That being said, I am still going to speak up when I see memes that marginalize or alienate people--not as a means of engaging the person who posted it per se (though I hope they are willing to listen) but to make sure others who see the post (especially people that might be a target of the post) know that not everyone feels that way.
Public Conversation vs Private MessagesSocial media has been fantastic in putting me contact with a great many people and enjoying the opportunity to have many interesting conversations and debates. But in moving forward, I think I shall be trying a new tactic. We know that when it comes to beliefs, we are often likely to dig in deeper when we are publicly challenged because it becomes that much harder to admit if our thinking is wrong in some capacity. We stake ourselves as intelligent, professionals, or just aware and so to be shown otherwise in public means that we are likely to avoid it. Thus, I can imagine for myself and others that as I dig into a conversation deeper and deeper, trying to defend my beliefs, I'm reluctant to give ground or to really hear the other person. But maybe, if I move the discussion to a more personal nature--to just me and the person via private messages, email, phone calls or face-to-face, it changes the conversation. It moves from public to private and creates better opportunities to hear one another.
So my goal is that when I engage in conversations that seem in direct opposition to things I believe in, I will initially post my public response (agian, believe it is important that others see it that it will be an opportunity for those neutral OR those that the post targets feel supported) but if the conversation goes into a more protracted discussion, that I move that into a private realm for me and the person to better understand one another.
Snacking Social MediaI plan to reduce my social media usage. I still plan to use it regularly, even daily but I need to shift away from the mindless scrolling, the endless search for interesting content, the constant look for something. I need to be more strategic and focused in going on social media--seeing it as a place to check in regularly but not constantly. I want to hear the different voices of people I am connected with but like others, after this past week, I'm realizing how much I'm drowning in it and I'd rather not be so inundated. So I plan to start planning spots within the day to tune in but to stop grazing while doing other things and recooperate time to do some of the actions that I am in pursuing as a result of where I find myself politically.
Subordinated into that is going to be a reduction in how often I explore differnet news outlets; especially that includes clickbait or over-dramatic responses to what they present as news (on the left, Mother Jones, I'm looking at you; on the right, Breitbart news, I'm not having it or any "news" space that have a bajillion article links along the side and at the bottom to other tabloid news). For me, these sites are not useful; I want to know what happened but I'm so damn tired of the hyperbolic rhetoric--that's what got us here; it won't get us out. So I say goodbye to them.
These are some of the actions in my daily practice that I am pursuing. What about the rest of you? How might your relationship with social media change given your experiences over the last few months?
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